Hello my beautiful people and welcome back to the blog! It's been a while since I've been here and I'm so happy you're here. Alright, I'm gonna keep this as short as possible, let's dive in.
Now this blog wouldn't really make any sense unless I gave a bit of info about how I got here. You see every child has a dream some want to be doctors, some singers, some dancers...well, 8-year-old Ruth wanted to be a mommy and a wife. Every time someone asked what I wanted to be it was " a wife and mommy" At the time, I didn't know any better. When I was five I wanted to be a princess with my prince and my family. As I grew older the answer would change but every answer had a common factor, family. It was a desire I've always had. Finally, at 14, I knew the name of what I wanted to be, a homemaker. I didn't have to look it up the definition was in the name. Someone that took care of their home.
At 16 I decided to take up the role. My mother is a single mother that worked 14 hour days, 6 days a week, she had no support. She took the role of mother and father and while she did care for the home it wasn't to the extent that she wanted to or if I'm being honest, that we needed. She did her best and I thank God for her as much as I can. Being a single mom with three children isn't easy so I took on the role of tending to our home when she wasn't there. When mom left I was the mom and slowly but surely I found a routine that could fit my schedule.
I cooked, I cleaned, my financial management wasn't the best the time but I was getting there, my faith had a huge part in it as I was trying to figure out the spiritual aspect of tending to my home, I was getting on top of time management and not being an idler. I was a homemaker...right?
Instagram post about what Christian homemaking is: https://www.instagram.com/p/CY1kN8DrpSq/?utm_medium=copy_link
There's a reason I called this the Homemaker's Resume and that's because before I could call myself a homemaker, it literally felt like I was checking off a list on a resume. I wasn't a wife, I wasn't a mom, heck I was a 17-year-old high school student living with my mother and siblings. I had just created my Instagram account a few weeks ago and who was I of all people to put the word "homemaker" in my bio?
Let's see what google had to say about this. The first thing I saw when I searched up the definition of a homemaker was "a person, especially a housewife, who manages a home." My heart sank as my eyes zoomed in on "especially a housewife" and I turned off my phone.
It didn't help that every single homemaking account that popped up on my feed at the time was either a wife and/or had children.
Okay so maybe I couldn't call myself a homemaker but an aspiring homemaker would work.
So that's what I settled for. Aspiring homemaker.
The List Continues To Grow
Okay so maybe I couldn't just be a wife now I need to be a mom to feel better. Then the list grew to actually own a house. Then it grew to going to college because I needed to get an education before I could settle down. I couldn't just be a homemaker, the world said I would be useless. I needed to add a degree to this resume of mine.
When Realization Hits
The more I thought about it the more nothing seemed to make sense. Homemaking is not something you get overnight it's more of an overtime job. It takes practice and sometimes we have to fail at something to get better but homemaking does not have to start at I do. Walking down the aisle and reciting my vows would not be the key to unlocking the 'everything homemaking' door.
One can be a wife and a mother and have nothing to do with homemaking.
I can have the biggest house and still neglect to take care of it.
I didn't have to be rich to be one I was poor then and still lived a good life. Sure I wouldn't get everything I wanted but with the right budget, we would be okay.
College wasn't a must. I could always take extra classes that wouldn't get me in debt.
And I didn't have to be a homeowner. An apartment worked just fine. It wasn't the house that made the home, it was the people living within.
What Does God Say?
By this time I was tired. I didn't want the opinion of others, I didn't even want to listen to myself. As a woman pursuing Biblical Womanhood, it was time to run to God's Word. This was something I should have done a long time ago.
As women, we all have a duty to take care of our homes. Homemaking came out of obeying God's word.
We have Proverbs 31 being a great example of what caring for the home looked like, we have Titus 2 telling older women that they should teach younger women to tend to our homes, etc...
I am a homemaker and you don't have to be guilty about wanting to call yourself either.
If you're single, you can be a homemaker. Are you working? That's okay, you can still be a homemaker. Maybe you have no children, but you practice homemaking, you're a homemaker.
Homemaking is a blessing and no matter what your status is you don't have to feel any shame in wanting to call yourself something that you are!
Don't let comparison rob you. Don't let the world try to shame you either. Everyone's season is different, there is no "perfect homemaker" and there never will be but rest assured that God sees what you're doing and you're doing something that is honorable.
Hi! My name is Ruth, I'm an 18-year-old high school student, and I love being a homemaker.
Today was a long one but thank you guys for sticking it out with me today. I love each and every one of you but most importantly, Jesus loves you.
Until next time sweet friends!
Colossians 3:23 - And whatever you do, do it heartily as to the Master, and not unto men.
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